“Before you act or say it pause and ask yourself… and then what?”
Everyone faces some form of bullying at some point in their lives. Even as adults we often face bullying in the workplace. The advice you give your child about bullying now will stay with them for the rest of their lives. It is so important to explain where bullying comes from, how to resolve it and how to prevent it from affecting you.
Bullies act out because of their own insecurities
A child is able to protect themselves from bullies simply by understanding why children are bullies. Most often bullies have been picked on themselves and are looking to feel superior to someone else. They want to make someone else feel weak and small to have a sense of accomplishment over them, they have lost their own sense of value, and are now trying to take it from you.
By helping your child understand what bullies are trying to do, they are able to mentally prepare themselves and not let the bully have any power over them mentally.
Power in Numbers
Stick together with your friends, there is strength in numbers and often bullies will be deterred by larger groups. Bullies target kids who they think are weak and vulnerable, preying on the insecurity that may come with feeling isolated and alone.
Help your child know their worth, so they never feel isolated, insecure and alone. Arrange play dates, get them socializing making friends, get involved with activities. Building positive self-image and confidence can help stop your child from becoming a victim of bullying.
Don’t Tolerate Bullying
Bullying is really immature, anyone trying to harm you mentally or physically is really not worth a second of your time. If someone is trying to bully you and you are unable to resolve the conflict on your own you can always reach out to a teacher or parent to help.
Bullies Have Feelings Too
We all want to feel like we belong somewhere, that we mean something to someone. Everyone has feelings even bullies, and they often bully because they are upset themselves. This does not mean you tolerate bullying. Just the opposite. Teaching our kids to feel sorry for kids who have lost their own way, their self-esteem, their values to the extent that the only way they can feel good is to try and make someone else feel bad, we teach our own kids how precious each of us truly is, and how desperate we are to be heard, understood, guided, and valued.
Let’s come together to help stop bullying!