How can I support a child dealing with bullying?

Why do people Bully?

There are a million reasons why people choose to bully. Usually, the bully is trying to fill a void where they need to feel superior in some sort of way. They often pick a victim they think is emotionally or physically weaker than them, or is different from the social norm and an easy target. Often children that bully are reflecting the way have been treated at home or school. 

We all have a role to play!

O6EWSI0.jpgBullying prevention starts at home, but teachers, principles, and organizations have a role to play too. If you notice your child acting out towards others or teachers are calling you about your child’s behavior, there are steps you can take to prevent your child from being a bully.

Make sure your child understands that what they do and say can impact others in a negatively and that their recent behavior is a problem.

Angry couple arguing behind a sad girl at home

Let your child know that bullying is very serious and will not be tolerated. When talking to your child about bullying use a calm tone and be an example of respectful behavior. 

Talk to your child and see how their feeling. Try to find out why they may have been bullying in the first place. Were they trying to fit in at school? Are they picking up on emotions from home? Are they experiencing divorce? Do their siblings pick on them? 

 

There are 7 skills bullies need in order to change

 1. Responsibility-Being able to take responsibility for their actions.

2. Empathy-Understand how the other person may feel in that situation

3. Anger Management-Reduce episode of lashing out in a negative way

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4. Impulse Control -Stop and think about what they are about to do or say

5. Self-esteem – Finding happiness within themselves

6. Inclusive -Being able to realize popularity isn’t everything

7. Respect –Realize everyone deserves to be respected

This article from very well family goes more in-depth about these skills and how to achieve them.


 

How can I support a child dealing with bullying?

Both the bully and victim need support after an episode of bullying.

Victim

Have an open conversation about what happened. Ask them how you can help to make them feel safe.Sad pupil sitting alone on ground at corridor Remind them that it is not their fault and that people often bully because they are unhappy with themselves.

Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem. Sports, music or crafting activities will help them find a place they feel comfortable making friends and improving self-worth. Let them know they have people they can talk to, and they are not going through this alone.

Never! Tell the child to ignore the bullying. Blame the child for being bullied. Encourage fighting back. Always tell your child to seek a teacher or friend while being physically bullied. Fighting back could hurt the child and result in punishment for them. Contact the other parents involved, this is the teacher’s job and could create future problems.

Bully

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Talk it out! Where this is aggression coming from? Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem and socialize. People that are happy do not hurt others. Involve them in repairing the situation, have them write an apology. They will think more about their actions if they have to write it down.

If they broke or stole something, have them physically help fix what they broke or return what they took

Never! Blame the child or call them names. The child is clearly struggling with their own inner issues and that will only bring more negativity to the situation

 

 

 

Talking to Your Children About Bullying

 

“Before you act or say it pause and ask yourself… and then what?”

Everyone faces some form of bullying at some point in their lives. Even as adults we often face bullying in the workplace. The advice you give your child about bullying now will stay with them for the rest of their lives. It is so important to explain where bullying comes from, how to resolve it and how to prevent it from affecting you.

Bullies act out because of their own insecurities

A child is able to protect themselves from bullies simply by understanding why children are bullies. Most often bullies have been picked on themselves and are looking to feel superior to someone else. They want to make someone else feel weak and small to have a sense of accomplishment over them, they have lost their own sense of value, and are now trying to take it from you.

By helping your child understand what bullies are trying to do, they are able to mentally prepare themselves and not let the bully have any power over them mentally.

Sad pupil being bullied by classmates at corridor in school

Power in Numbers 

Stick together with your friends, there is strength in numbers and often bullies will be deterred by larger groups. Bullies target kids who they think are weak and vulnerable, preying on the insecurity that may come with feeling isolated and alone.

Help your child know their worth, so they never feel isolated, insecure and alone. Arrange play dates, get them socializing making friends, get involved with activities. Building positive self-image and confidence can help stop your child from becoming a victim of bullying.

Don’t Tolerate Bullying

Bullying is really immature, anyone trying to harm you mentally or physically is really not worth a second of your time. If someone is trying to bully you and you are unable to resolve the conflict on your own you can always reach out to a teacher or parent to help.

Bullies Have Feelings Too 

We all want to feel like we belong somewhere, that we mean something to someone. Everyone has feelings even bullies, and they often bully because they are upset themselves. This does not mean you tolerate bullying. Just the opposite.  Teaching our kids to feel sorry for kids who have lost their own way, their self-esteem, their values to the extent that the only way they can feel good is to try and make someone else feel bad, we teach our own kids how precious each of us truly is, and how desperate we are to be heard, understood, guided, and valued.

Let’s come together to help stop bullying!

 

Don’t Be a Bully! Anti-Bully Song!

 

 

As a parent, there is not much you can do to stop your child from experiencing bullying, but you play a major role in how they deal with a bully. Bullying can happen at any age and can affect many aspects of life, causing anxiety, depressions, suicidal thoughts and can negatively affect schooling. With 47% of Canadian parents reporting their child being a victim of bullying, what can we do to prevent bullying or ease the situation?

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Identify the Signs

Sometimes children will try to hide that they are being bullied because they are embarrassed and are unsure what to do. There are some tell-tale signs that your child may be a victim of bullying. Signs to watch out for; missing belongings/ torn clothes,
troubles sleeping, avoiding school, grades slipping, anxiety, stomachaches, headaches, and mood swings. 

If you believe your child is experiencing bullying, try and have an open conversation about it. Ask them how they are feeling and if something is bugging them. Let them know your there to help and listen. They may not want your help, but they do need your support. If your child is experiencing extreme anxiety or depression from bullying and will not talk to you, seek an older mentor (family friend) or a counselor that may be able to help them sort through what’s happening.

Why do people Bully?

There are a million reasons why people choose to bully. Usually, the bully is trying to fill a void where they need to feel superior in some sort of way. They often pick a victim they think is emotionally or physically weaker than them, or is different from the social norm and an easy target. Often children that bully are reflecting the way have been treated at home or school. 

We all have a role to play!

O6EWSI0.jpgBullying prevention starts at home, but teachers, principles, and organizations have a role to play too. If you notice your child acting out towards others or teachers are calling you about your child’s behavior, there are steps you can take to prevent your child from being a bully.

Make sure your child understands that what they do and say can impact others in a negatively and that their recent behavior is a problem.

Angry couple arguing behind a sad girl at home

Let your child know that bullying is very serious and will not be tolerated. When talking to your child about bullying use a calm tone and be an example of respectful behavior. 

Talk to your child and see how their feeling. Try to find out why they may have been bullying in the first place. Were they trying to fit in at school? Are they picking up on emotions from home? Are they experiencing divorce? Do their siblings pick on them? 


 

There are 7 skills bullies need in order to change

 1. Responsibility-Being able to take responsibility for their actions.

2. Empathy-Understand how the other person may feel in that situation

3. Anger Management-Reduce episode of lashing out in a negative way

6756.jpg

4. Impulse Control-Stop and think about what they are about to do or say

5. Self-esteem– Finding happiness within themselves

6. Inclusive-Being able to realize popularity isn’t everything

7. Respect -Realize everyone deserves to be respected

This article from very well family goes more in-depth about these skills and how to achieve them.

 


 

How can I support a child dealing with bullying?

Both the bully and victim need support after an episode of bullying.

Victim

Have an open conversation about what happened. Ask them how you can help to make them feel safe.Sad pupil sitting alone on ground at corridor Remind them that it is not their fault and that people often bully because they are unhappy with themselves.

Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem. Sports, music or crafting activities will help them find a place they feel comfortable making friends and improving self-worth. Let them know they have people they can talk to, and they are not going through this alone.

Never! Tell the child to ignore the bullying. Blame the child for being bullied. Encourage fighting back. Always tell your child to seek a teacher or friend while being physically bullied. Fighting back could hurt the child and result in punishment for them. Contact the other parents involved, this is the teacher’s job and could create future problems.

Bully

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Talk it out! Where this is aggression coming from? Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem and socialize. People that are happy do not hurt others. Involve them in repairing the situation, have them write an apology. They will think more about their actions if they have to write it down.

If they broke or stole something, have them physically help fix what they broke or return what they took

Never! Blame the child or call them names. The child is clearly struggling with their own inner issues and that will only bring more negativity to the situation


 

W5Go has produced a song for children about the importance of thinking before you act. We believe that by pausing and thinking about what you do or what you say can greatly change the outcome of a situation. 

What you say and do could hurt others feelings, which is why you should always pause and ask yourself “And then what?”. What might happen if I say this? How will they respond? How will they feel? For more about our views on thinking before you act check out this article “And then what?” By W5Go founder Carl KS Teo. 

Don’t Be a Bully! aka And Then What?

As a parent, there is not much you can do to stop your child from experiencing bullying, but you play a major role in how they deal with a bully. Bullying can happen at any age and can affect many aspects of life, causing anxiety, depressions, suicidal thoughts and can negatively affect schooling. With 47% of Canadian parents reporting their child being a victim of bullying, what can we do to prevent bullying or ease the situation?

Sad pupil being bullied by classmates at corridor in school

Here at W5Go, we see bullying as a very important issue in society that affects people of all ages. We try to show what it is like to be on both sides of the situation, and urge you to stop and think before you act or say it!

We have created this song to inspire children to stop and think about their actions.

How do you stop an adult bully? You talk to them when they’re young! That is what we’re trying to achieve with this catchy song!

For more information on how to help a child that is experiencing bullying check out our post on Supporting Children Experiencing Bullying.

“And then what?” – an important punctuation in every thought before action

The world will be a better place if we all have developed the discipline of posing the question “and then what?” to ourselves before taking a decision to act.

This is an observation that is true of all situations and all activity space.

Let’s reflect upon these desirable outcomes:

If you apply the discipline – yes, it is a discipline!

Conflicts between persons, peoples and nations will be greatly reduced

there will be less futile pursuits

there will be greater productivity

there will be less mistakes

there will be less regrets

there will be less griefs

there will be less unhappiness

and you will find inner peace and the world a fairer, safer and cleaner place for habitation

“And Then What?” – Carl Teo 

 

 

 

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Helping Children Deal With Bullies

As a parent, there is not much you can do to stop your child from experiencing bullying, but you play a major role in how they deal with a bully. Bullying can happen at any age and can affect many aspects of life, causing anxiety, depressions, suicidal thoughts and can negatively affect schooling. With 47% of Canadian parents reporting their child being a victim of bullying, what can we do to prevent bullying or ease the situation?

256253.jpg

Identify the Signs

Sometimes children will try to hide that they are being bullied because they are embarrassed and are unsure what to do. There are some tell-tale signs that your child may be a victim of bullying. Signs to watch out for; missing belongings/ torn clothes,
troubles sleeping, avoiding school, grades slipping, anxiety, stomachaches, headaches, and mood swings. 

If you believe your child is experiencing bullying, try and have an open conversation about it. Ask them how they are feeling and if something is bugging them. Let them know your there to help and listen. They may not want your help, but they do need your support. If your child is experiencing extreme anxiety or depression from bullying and will not talk to you, seek an older mentor (family friend) or a counsellor that may be able to help them sort through what’s happening.

Why do people Bully?

There are a million reasons why people choose to bully. Usually, the bully is trying to fill a void where they need to feel superior in some sort of way. They often pick a victim they think is emotionally or physically weaker than them, or is different from the social norm and an easy target. Often children that bully are reflecting the way have been treated at home or school. 

We all have a role to play!

O6EWSI0.jpgBullying prevention starts at home, but teachers, principles and organizations have a role to play too. If you notice your child acting out towards others or teachers are calling you about your child’s behaviour, there are steps you can take to prevent your child from being a bully.

Make sure your child understands that what they do and say can impact others in a negatively and that their recent behaviour is a problem.

Angry couple arguing behind a sad girl at home

Let your child know that bullying is very serious and will not be tolerated. When talking to your child about bullying use a calm tone and be an example of respectful behaviour. 

Talk to your child and see how their feeling. Try to find out why they may have been bullying in the first place. Were they trying to fit in at school? Are they picking up on emotions from home? Are they experiencing divorce? Do their siblings pick on them? 


 

There are 7 skills bullies need in order to change

 Responsibility-Being able to take responsibility for their actions.

Empathy-Understand how the other person may feel in that situation

Anger Management-Reduce episode of lashing out in a negative way

6756.jpg

Impulse Control-Stop and think about what they are about to do or say

Self-esteem– Finding happiness within themselves

Inclusive-Being able to realize popularity isn’t everything

Respect -Realize everyone deserves to be respected

This article from very well family goes more in-depth about these skills and how to achieve them.

 


 

How can I support a child dealing with bullying?

Both the bully and victim need support after an episode of bullying.

Victim

Have an open conversation about what happened. Ask them how you can help to make them feel safe.Sad pupil sitting alone on ground at corridor Remind them that it is not their fault and that people often bully because they are unhappy with themselves.

Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem. Sports, music or crafting activities will help them find a place they feel comfortable making friends and improving self-worth. Let them know they have people they can talk to, and they are not going through this alone.

Never! Tell the child to ignore the bullying. Blame the child for being bullied. Encourage fighting back. Always tell your child to seek a teacher or friend while being physically bullied. Fighting back could hurt the child and result in punishment for them. Contact the other parents involved, this is the teacher’s job and could create future problems.

Bully

Screen Shot 2018-06-19 at 12.07.30 PM copy.png

Talk it out! Where this is aggression coming from? Get them involved in activities to boost their self-esteem and socialize. People that are happy do not hurt others. Involve them in repairing the situation, have them write an apology. They will think more about their actions if they have to write it down.

If they broke or stole something, have them physically help fix what they broke or return what they took

Never! Blame the child or call them names. The child is clearly struggling with their own inner issues and that will only bring more negativity to the situation


 

W5Go has produced a song for children about the importance of thinking before you act. We believe that by pausing and thinking about what you do or what you say can greatly change the outcome of a situation. 

What you say and do could hurt others feelings, which is why you should always pause and ask yourself “And then what?”. What might happen if I say this? How will they respond? How will they feel? For more about our views on thinking before you act check out this article “And then what?” By W5Go founder Carl KS Teo.